Tuesday, October 2, 2012
HELLO, I'm back! I've been away a little longer than I intended to be but things have been really busy for us this past month! I feel like I have so much to say in my head but I just can't find time to write it all down!
And then to top it off, like you don't work hard enough at just keeping your sanity ... you have people like me, telling you that in recovery you BOTH have to work on yourselves and your relationship!!!! That just doesn't sound fair, huh? Like you have the damn energy for that ... it's his problem right? You didn't do anything to create this klusterfuck of chaos so he should do most of the work, right?
Life can be insane enough as it is ... it's no wonder that women practically lose their minds with having to cope with their hubby's sex addiction. I mean it's emotional and exhausting enough to just stay in the relationship (and fight off the overwhelming desire to chop their hubby's penis's off - LOL).
To answer my own silly questions .... no, it isn't fair! We didn't ask for this and it is wrong that our suffering has to travel so deep into the core of our soul. AND, unfortunately sitting back and waiting for him to do his recovery work doesn't help create the life, the intimacy and the relationship that WE want. We have power too, we have a say and we know what we want. And what we want is Happiness, Trust, Intimacy and AWESOME SEX!!!!!