Hi everyone! I am just going to start this blog with another, I can't believe how LONG it has been since I have spewed my words all over here! So, I'm sorry about that ... I know many of my AMAZING ladies out there really look for support and guidance and it is important to me to keep that up because we all know that I care and truly want to support this community ... even if it is just SENDING OUT A BIG HUG to you all!!! So, here is my HUG!!!!
One thing that has been keeping me busy is that Craig and I (or Ed if you only read about us on here) have become the official Recovery Coaches for the website Feed The Right Wolf. It is a wonderful and VERY popular resource for people struggling with sex or porn addiction and their partners.
If you don't already know the story of what Feed The Right Wolf means, it's pretty motivating. Basically, it is an old Native American tale of a father who was talking to his son and explains that 2 wolves live inside of us .... one good and one bad. The boy asks his dad "which wolf wins". And the dad replies "The One You Feed".
So, there it is .... you have a CHOICE to feed the right wolf, make the right choice and be the person that you WANT to be. That goes for us ladies too ... we can choose to swirl in the despair of what has happened, be a victim and not embrace life going forward with all the awesomeness that it has to offer ..... or we can empower ourselves to know ourselves better and create the life that WE want to lead. ANd if our hubby's can't join in process than you will still SURVIVE and THRIVE.
Let's Feed The Right Wolf and choose our happiness! No matter what has happened to us ... we ALWAYS want to choose the place of empowerment, the place of growth and the place of deciding the direction that WE want!!!
The site also has a free recovery course for the guys (addicts) that has been so helpful in recovery to MANY. They also have a wonderful community of different forums that anyone can be a part of. It's a great way to post questions, concerns, offer support or advice to others ... basically, it's like a small community of people going through similar things and supporting each other.
Check out the site and send me your feedback! And, it's a great place to send your hubbys too for some extra support! I find when we have support or feel part of a community of people who understand, it makes healing just a little bit easier!
So ... I have been really excited to become a part of it! Craig is also running some get your life back Accountability Support Groups for the guys. Many people can't afford the cost of individual coaching but working with a team of other men (8 max on each team) gets them the motivation, support, tools and a network of other guys that can support each other. It's MUCH cheaper so if your hubby is concerned with the cost of getting the right help this is a great option. And we all know ... getting the right help is so important to healing ... especially for us ladies!! Anyway, just wanted to let everyone know about this stuff.
Share this with your hubby if he needs some Motivation, Inspiration or just need something to help them get on the right track toward recovery and healing!
I know this post has been all about me ... all about what we are doing ... all about his great opportunity ... but I am REALLY proud of the place where Craig and I are at today. It's amazing to think of where we were and the journey we took to get where we are now. We have worked SO VERY hard ... we worked through tears, fights, craziness, insanity, betrayal, hurt (should I continue???) ... and came out truly different people, truly happy and connected people and so excited about the next chapter of our lives! If feels GREAT to know that our story and our help has given others hope and sometimes that is just what we need to make it through each day!