Monday, January 23, 2012

One Ring to Bind Them . . .

Do you ever hear a line from a movie that speaks right to you?  One that stops you in your tracks when you hear it?  A line of inspiration given in a moment when you need it most?  In that moment you actually believe that the universe might actually be speaking to you?

Yesterday, my hubby and I were watching one of the greatest movies of all time . . .  "Lord of The Rings".  The main character Frodo was feeling lost and confused, unsure as to why he had been giving the HUGE responsibility of destroying the ring (it's an evil ring, a darkness that consumes all that hold it    - hhmmm very interesting, sounds a bit like addiction, huh?) .  Anyway, he had to face challenge after challenge, testing his own strength and fortitude.  In a moment of weakness, a moment when he was feeling sorry for himself that life had dealt him this card, a moment where he felt he could not go on . . . this is what he said:
I wish this ring had never come to me, I wish none of this had happened.
Gandalf, the great all knowing and wise wizard replies to him:
So do all who live to see such times but it is not for them to decide.  All you have to decide is what to do with the time that has been given to you.

When I heard these words . . . . I immediately felt a deep connection to them.  I often feel that I wish this "addiction" had not come to us, that life would be so much easier if these weren't our problems. 

But what Gandalf said is so very true and I keep hearing those words in my head . . . all I can do is decide what to do with the direction my path is taking me.  I cannot change the past, nor can I foresee the future.  I can however, live in the present, enjoy this stage of recovery with the closeness that it has brought us and decide what to do with the lessons that I have learned.  
Maybe the universe was speaking to me?  Who knows . . . 


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  2. This is so true and it's something I need to keep in mind. Thank you.

    1. It really is .... it is just so easy to lose that focus though .... but worrying about the past too much stops us from being true to ourselves. When we stay in the place of "what was and why the hell do we have to be here" .... it doesn't allow us personal growth, we stay stuck in the place of yuckiness and we never move forward! Moving forward is the only thing we can do .... and hopefully through the crap that we deal with we can make better choices for ourselves moving forward! That is the beauty of self growth!!

      Thanks for your comment ... I love hearing from people!!!! Good luck my friend!!!!!