And thrived! Sex addiction and porn addiction almost tore my family apart. My best friend and husband fell down hard and I picked him up! I saved my marriage, my family, and you can too. This blog was my journey to build intimacy and love and how I now help others do the same.
Hello my AMAZING ladies out there! I have not been writing very much lately and I have felt really bummed about that. I'm sorry that it seemed that I have kind of dropped off my blog ... I have been doing a lot of work helping women and couples through this mess and it has been sooo rewarding! I get busy though and I have sooo missed this awesome place where I can just spew my verbal diarrhea ... and hopefully INSPIRE someone along the way! SO, here is a GREAT question that one of my fabulous women asked me and I wanted to share my answer with you .... I think it is something that many women wonder and struggle with. So, maybe this can help a bit ... Here is what she asked: How did u ever get through this? I don't think I can ... Why me?
This is such a commonly asked question and I think that so many of us ask this question to ourselves over and over and over until our minds are spinning out of control. It is a simple yet oh, so complex question. There is just no easy answer on how to get through this, or how to feel better. This part truly sucks! But here is how I got through it ... ... it was VERY hard and VERY painful and VERY sucky!!!! I wont sugar coat that part at all, that is the reality.
Here is a question that people ask me "If you knew then, what you know now .... would you stay with Ed?" .... that is probably the hardest question for me to answer. The answer is "I DON'T KNOW". I know that isn't the answer that people want to hear .... but it is the truth!
First of all, I love Ed so very much! I'm happy that we are together, I am happy that he is healthy and I am so happy with the incredible family we have. AND I would love to say that I have no regrets at all .... but that would be a lie. I don't like to dwell on the past, I am here now, I am happy today and I did the best I could at the time. But, that question is often asked and I wonder if I had the knowledge and tools that I have today ... would I have made different choices?
Do you ever hear a line from a movie that speaks right to you? One that stops you in your tracks when you hear it? A line of inspiration given in a moment when you need it most? In that moment you actually believe that the universe might actually be speaking to you?
Yesterday, my hubby and I were watching one of the greatest movies of all time . . . "Lord of The Rings". The main character Frodo was feeling lost and confused, unsure as to why he had been giving the HUGE responsibility of destroying the ring (it's an evil ring, a darkness that consumes all that hold it - hhmmm very interesting, sounds a bit like addiction, huh?) . Anyway, he had to face challenge after challenge, testing his own strength and fortitude. In a moment of weakness, a moment when he was feeling sorry for himself that life had dealt him this card, a moment where he felt he could not go on . . . this is what he said:
I wish this ring had never come to me, I wish none of this had happened.
Gandalf, the great all knowing and wise wizard replies to him:
So do all who live to see such times but it is not for them to decide. All you have to decide is what to do with the time that has been given to you.
